When I let my thoughts wander a bit, a question that comes to my mind is that is there anything called true love. Many would say there isn't because love is always conditional. At first they do seem to be right. After all children always expect support from their parents. Younger siblings always want to be looked after by their elder brothers and sisters. Parents too hope that their kids on growing up will take care of them in old age. Even in our search for a life partner we tend to confine ourselves to a space defined by the qualities we desire for in a spouse.
Agreed that we expect certain conditions to be fulfilled. But what happens when they are not met to our satisfaction? Or when we happen to encounter in addition particular attributes, good or bad, which were unanticipated?
We don't start hating our children when they do not come first in their class. We might fight with our siblings but that does not mean everything is lost. We make up after those arguments. Your fiancee might act silly occasionally but you don't stop loving her. Your would-be might be a few cities apart but that does not diminish your feelings.
In my opinion, while it may be circumstances and needs which bring two people together but what keeps them truly entwined are selfless emotions unbound by any conditions.
2 comments:
Love in this World, if it has a present un-conditional status(as you claim) with respect to an individual, earlier had a pre-conditional status with respect to the same individual. 'Un-conditional' if it correlates with similar term 'Ideal', then one would agree these are not practical figures and are just a reference point. No flesh on earth is 'Ideal' so is there no 'Un-conditional Love' in this World.
Un-conditional Love can only be from the Almighty.
Every relationship demands some thing from the two people associated with it. But demands are a part of the relationship. But just because you demand does not mean that love is conditional. The demand from another person is also cause the love is selfless and wants you (or the other person) to be happy. However, selfless love also yields (I say yield case finally they realise that the demand is making you more unhappy) in finally and even if the demands are not met.
But, that takes involves time, space , trust, and patience. It is over a time, that parents realise that even if their kids are not scoring well, they are meant for some thing else other than just passing the exam. Over the time you realise that even if you have fought with your sister, she has learnt now learnt to understand that so and so thing does not get along well with you etc and inspite of the differences in opinion she is the one to hug you and console you when you have been misunderstood by the world. You realise that your spouse has a quality that you think it not good, but then you realise that that weighs down when you realise that he is making the best of what other things he has and may be what you think is not good is good for him or her.
Also while in relationships, we mature continuously, learn to be better that what we are today thanks to the demands(??) from the other person. So life is a continuous process and relationships themselves grow during that time.
That's what I think about these beautiful threads we weave over the time. Anyway, I do not know how you take to these thoughts, Sorry in case, I should not have commented.
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